How do I start if my spouse doesn’t support me?
ByGet your husband to fully support your leap to entrepreneurship from a constant job…there’s a way to do it successfully, without disregarding his fears!
I want to really get moving with my business. I’m an entrepreneur at heart and the thought of staying another day in my cubicle job makes me want to scream! I have complete faith in my business model and my ability to make my business work–if given the time to make it happen. My husband, though, is very nervous about my full transition from constant paycheck to the ‘unknown’.
I want to honor myself AND him because I really do respect his opinion and I don’t want him to stress out. But I also KNOW that I can do this, if given the chance. I feel like it’s ‘now or never.’
So how do I approach this? Is there a way to get him to relax and believe in my vision?
Ahhh, yes. It is completely normal for your spouse to be a bit freaked out by you wanting to really follow your passion. Many people don’t view it as ‘normal’ and acceptable behaviour in our society to quit your day job and go after a dream. This is sad, but important to acknowledge because it’s a main source of the fear.
I suggest that you approach it from HIS view point. Why is he so concerned? It could be that he doesn’t understand your business, or he doesn’t realize you have a plan.
If that’s the case, ensure he understands that you DO have a plan (you do have a plan, right?). Also ‘frame’ the request with a deadline.
Don’t just tell him you want to follow your passion indefinitely. Ask him for support for 3 or 6 months, show him your plan (get very detailed with this: the products, programs and services you want to launch, a detailed marketing plan, and expenses involved and your expected income), and then assure him that if after that time your business is not making profits you will reassess your marketing plans and get a part-time job if you need to. (This IS NOT FAILURE, it’s just smart and will take the pressure off of both of you.)
Approach him like you would if you were looking for a sponsor, a partner or a loan from someone. That’s essentially who he’s about to become unless you have the 3-6 months income already banked and ready for you to fall back on.
In the end, there is a very fine balance between following your heart and honoring his feelings. You already know what you need to do, deep inside.
If you need help creating your ‘Get out of J.O.B Plan’ check out my Happy in Biz Coaching Page and sign up for a Free Discovery Call to see how I can make your transition effortless, and give you the edge when you go to present your plan to your spouse.
