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I’ve built it…so where are the clients? What to do when your business is empty…
I started a business. Everyone I talk to thinks it’s a fantastic idea…but I’m not making ANY money and I don’t have any clients. I feel like this is due to my own insecurity and lack of a clear plan.
I have a tendency to give up easily and not follow-through when things get tough, and then I feel like a big, fat, failure. How can I turn my great idea into something that is profitable? AND how to I keep going in the meantime (because I really want to give up)?
Like never before I see it’s now or never, but I want proof.
I finally get it. I see I’m at a crossroads in my life…like never before, it’s now or never. I know I need to live what I believe and not just talk, read or think about it. I have being going through huge ups and downs lately, especially relating to my business. Sometimes I feel so sure of myself, it’s like I taste success. Other times, I experience such enormous self-doubt and fear that I can hardly move forward (and staying still is just as painful, if not worse.) How can I move past this fear that paralyzes me? I need tangible proof that I can do this before I really go for it, and I’d really like you to share exactly what you do daily to get around the limiting beliefs and manifest success in your life and business.
You will not find your proof in other people. It comes from within. The limiting beliefs are yours (no one else’s) and you must get through them in your own way. That is NOT the same as doing it alone, let me be clear about that!
Success isn’t about perfection, it’s about consistency.
My perfectionism chokes the life out of me! I get so obsessed with having every detail perfect that I end up getting sick of the project and abandoning, wasting hundreds of hours of work, OR I end up doing nothing because I’m so afraid of getting it ‘wrong.’
Since I’m trying to start my own business, this is especially destructive. I get a great idea, and I follow the enthusiasm, only to get stuck on some ridiculous details. On the other side of things, when I DO manage to put something out there, if there is any kind of mistake (typo, or wrong stat) I feel so ashamed it stops me completely. OR, I put so much effort into something, I have high expectations for how it will be received by my customers, only to be disappointed when it launches and I hear crickets. How do I get past the fear of making mistakes? It is killing my life and smothering my business.
It’s exhausing to feel like the entire world is waiting for you to screw up! Guess what? They’re not.
Is it your job or is it you?
If it’s you, and you’re not ready to quit and move forward yet, I have 3 suggestions to help you change your attitude around.
I work in an office and it drives me crazy. I dread Monday’s. Not just in a ‘oh boy, it’s Monday morning and the start of another week‘ way, but in a ‘can barely get out of bed, spend all of Sunday dreading Monday‘ way. I want to quit and either go back to school or start my own business, but the economy has me freaked out! What if I can’t find another job? Then throw in the fact that my husband could lose his job at any minute, and I just can’t do it…yet. So, my question is, how can I improve my attitude towards my job, if only to make it more bearable for me, and if only for the short-term?
The last few years have been hard on people. It’s tempting to feel that you’re lucky to even have a job, even if you don’t like it. And when you do express discontent, most people go on and on about how grateful you should be and how you should appreciate the job. This only makes you feel worse, am I right?
Get your husband to fully support your leap to entrepreneurship from a constant job…there’s a way to do it successfully, without disregarding his fears!
I want to really get moving with my business. I’m an entrepreneur at heart and the thought of staying another day in my cubicle job makes me want to scream! I have complete faith in my business model and my ability to make my business work–if given the time to make it happen. My husband, though, is very nervous about my full transition from constant paycheck to the ‘unknown’.
I want to honor myself AND him because I really do respect his opinion and I don’t want him to stress out. But I also KNOW that I can do this, if given the chance. I feel like it’s ‘now or never.’
So how do I approach this? Is there a way to get him to relax and believe in my vision?