Archive for January, 2011
Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway
Posted by: | CommentsI love this quote from Susan Jeffers (author of Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway
“If everybody feels fear when approaching something totally new in life, yet so many out there are ‘doing it’ despite the fear, then we must conclude that fear is not the problem.”
So what is the problem? In my experience, it is not the fear that holds a person back, it’s the story they have about what might happen. The fear isn’t real until it shows up in your experience (and even then, it’s debatable.)
Lets look at this scenario, I see it all the time.
Alice has an opportunity to start a new project. This project is what she’s been hoping for. She is looking at earning more money, getting much deserved credibility and increasing her visibility to key people in her industry (and therefore, a promotion, more money, more credibility…etc.). She gets excited at the potential, and then she gets stuck in her head:
- What if I fail? I’ll fail miserably, my colleagues will laugh, and I’ll have to leave companies. Then I won’t be able to find another job in this economy and we’ll have to sell the house. We’re barely hanging it on with expenses as it is, and my relationship with my husband is already strained. He’ll see me as a failure and eventually leave me for a younger women. My kids will hate me, and I will end up broke, dead, and alone except for 30 cats and my shopping cart.
Sound familiar?
Maybe that’s not your exact story, but consider this: What in your life are you afraid of, that isn’t even real? (Now, and potentially ever.)
Sometimes People Suck
Posted by: | CommentsConfessions of a Happy Person…
I’m EXTRA spunky today (my husband says it’s because of the full moon?) and so I’m going to funnel it into something that I think you’ll be relieved to find out — You’re Not Alone.
Sometimes people suck.
And by “people,” I’m generalizing. Sometimes I suck, I’m sure you’re not perfect either 
There, I said it. You know it — so quit judging me and pretending you have no idea what I mean.
I work with a lot of people, thousands over the last 10 years and I’ve learned a few things. Hopefully my experience will make yours much less painful, and you can apply my experience to life and business.
You can stop feeling like you’re alone in this irritation, and stop ignoring it (because ignoring this fact won’t make you feel better and won’t change a thing. You can’t change reality by ignoring it or fighting it.)
Here I go…
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People will disappoint you.
Even ones you love will break promises, not follow-through or outright lie to you about their intentions. Sometimes this is intentional, mostly it’s not.
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Not everyone will agree with you.
Some will say you’re wrong or you don’t know what you’re talking about. Some will give you a look, and others will point at you and laugh
. This doesn’t feel good, but it happens and there is nothing you can do. Trying to please everyone will leave you burnt out, unhappy and you’ll still have people who think you’re “doing it wrong.” -
Not everyone will like you.
Just like #2, about 50% of the people will like you and about 50% will not. Trying to make everyone like you in not authentic and by doing so you’re also leaving your integrity on the floor to be stomped all over. It is hard going against the crowd, but staying true to who you are and standing up for your own values will leave you happier than having a lot of “friends” who don’t even like the real you.
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Everyone has a shadow.
It shows up as fear, jealousy and sabotage. There are some people who are so unhappy, uncomfortable and un-confident that they will do what they can to bring you down. Don’t be surprised if these people end up being the ones you thought you could depend on. Sad, but true. Those closest to you might get a little bit jealous when you start losing weight, making more money or playing a bigger game. They’ll get passive-aggressive, or outright snarky, and they’ll do what they can to make you feel bad. Jealousy can get ugly.
While you might have a perfect life where none of this exists (if that’s the case, why are you reading this?) 99% do not. I have been fairly lucky, between my attraction marketing plan (in business and in life) and doing a Life Cleanse on myself twice a year since 2009, I have eliminated a lot of this. But I do get the odd troll who just wants to bring me down, and often its the trolls I thought I could depend on that sting the most.
So what can you do?
- Recognize them for what they are: Human. People have bad days, and some are just mean spirited. If they’re a snarky email comment, or a nasty Facebook Friend or Twitter follower, delete and block. If it’s someone in your life, you’ll have to make bigger changes to yourself (or your relationship).
- Acknowledge that “it is what it is.” The reality of your situation is that it is what it is, because it is what you’re currently experiencing. And fighting it or disagreeing with it won’t make it go away, or make you feel better. In fact, you’ll usually feel worse.
- Turn to your true “tribe” for proper support (you know the ones that you know for sure, are there for you). My true tribe is really small…a tribe of about 5, depending on the issue, but I have a tribe of several thousand through Twitter and Facebook who I can count on most of the time to “get” me. Not always, but like I said, my attraction marketing works and I have some FAB people in my social media circle!
That’s it for this true-life confession. Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone, sometimes people really do suck!
©2010 Kimberly Englot
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Grab your FREE Copy of “Dump The Junk, and Be Happy” eBook at http://kimberlyenglot.com. Kimberly Englot is CEO of The Center for Authentic Self Development and author of “The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula” (2011).
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Posted by: | CommentsHappiness Now, no matter what day
Posted by: | Comments1/11/11: Yesterday WAS a special day in history.
Yes, it was a cool date. It had special numerological meaning, and was memorable. For that reason alone, I chose it to launch my book “The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula.” But I became a little disturbed by the sheer emphasis some people where giving it. I overhead things like,
What a unique day. This will NEVER happen again, and is a great time to step back and examine where you are.
I’m paraphrasing, but every time someone emphasized how significant yesterday was because of the number, I though to myself
Every day is like that. Every day is significant because it only comes around once. In fact every single moment, of every day is significant. It’s called your life. And you only have right NOW to live it.
And it’s true. Will YOU ever see January 12, 2011 again? Will you ever see Jan. 13, 2011 again? Why are people making an external situation so significant? So I encourage you to take time today, to realize that today IS all you have. No matter what the date is. It is important to be happy NOW, because that’s all you have.
Now of Happiness Basic Bootcamp
Posted by: | CommentsHow you can access this new eCourse…for the cost of a book!
It’s Basic Training for your Now of Happiness Muscles…Think Uggs, NOT Doc Martens!
This bootcamp will keep you comfortable in some uncomfortable places. Warm, fuzzy, and yet tough.
I didn’t want to do a “traditional Amazon launch.” I reserve the right to do that later, but THIS launch for THIS BOOK, was bigger than that. It’s the launch of a movement (the Happiness Movement) and instead of 101 silly bonus gifts that you don’t really want (More doesn’t always equal better), I decided to continue on the happiness theme and give you my new eCourse: The Now of Happiness Basic Bootcamp as a gift. (Yep, FOR FREE!)
You can learn more about the Basic Bootcamp:click here.:
Here are the basics.
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Posted by: | CommentsCreating Your Successful New Year’s New You Plan
Posted by: | CommentsJanuary 2011 call
It’s a new year, a new decade and we just had a new moon…NOW is the perfect time to sit down and map out how you want your year to go, and how you want yourself to grow!
If you’re like me, you crave having some kind of plan, for everything! You’re probably a tad bit of a perfectionist and you don’t like surprises (you can’t plan surprises).
If that sounds like you, my next Authentic Self Nourishment call will be perfect for you! It’s all about fully understand YOU, how you react to things, how you make decisions, and what you want so that you can design a plan that works for you.
I also have a very special Bonus Expert joining us in a few weeks to teach you how to further understand how you relate to the world, and how it’s affecting your results (see below).
The next Authentic Self Nourishment call (formerly known as “the Premium Membership”) is set for Jan. 24th at 4pm CST. (5pm EST/2pm PST).
Here are some of the things that I’m talking about
(I’m so excited about this call!!!!–note the extra “!”)
- The 4 types of Action Patterns (which one are you?) This will help you to determine how to plan for success, not failure.
- How to play to your strengths to have you ultimate year!
- The 4 Stages of ANY major catalystic shift, and exactly how to take any life circumstance (cancer, job loss, cheating spouse, lottery win) and use it to propel you forward, not sink back into depression!
What’s coming up…
I’m also speaking with Jennifer Sheldon, a well known astrologist and founder of FemCentral, (http://jenniferlshelton.com/) to teach you how to create and read your birth chart.
She did mine a few months ago and I know understand myself and my reactions to things way better. It has helped me to be easier on myself, and not be so hard or judgmental of my own actions.
As a special bonus, I am picking a random name from the Authentic Self Nourishment members and they will get a personal chart reading from her, as she uses it as an example for everyone else.
I know you want to be part of this and these calls are ONLY for Members!
Join NOW or learn more information here.
